<!-- wp:paragraph -->Red Lights:<br /><br /><br />Underneath red or blue lights, bodies are supposed to embrace the vulnerability of sex. In this article, we teach you how to enjoy sex with your partner. Try these tricks out, and watch your sex lives bloom:<br /><br /><br />1. Resist the Urge to Make it Showtime: Although it is not exactly a bad thing in itself, we make the mistake of forgetting that sex is for mutual enjoyment and not to create an impression.<br />Despite the fact that creating a good impression of your sexual prowess’s to your partner is a sure way to boost ego, it is not all there is to it. More often than not, people who try to impress in bed end up not enjoying one bit of the sex. Their partners do no too.<br />The fake moans, orgasms and dramatic strokes should stop. You’re not in a circus.<br /><br /><br />2. Try not to make it picture perfect: Mind you, this is not picture perfect in the literal sense. Except you’re making videos. No offense to this industry, porn has created a false image of sex or what sex should be like.<br />The sex lives of most young people are inspired by porn and this takes away the thrill of the actual sex experience. Let me tell you why:<br /><br />- Porn is just filming: like all movie producers, the makers of porn use props, effects and make up to improve their imagery. It’s all business strategy. The insanely large penises and model-like bodies of actors and actresses are almost always not the same in real life.<br /><br />- It is impossible to climb a ladder with two hands full. You can’t be worried about inconsequential things like the size of your penis or the way your vagina looks and enjoy sex. You would be distracted.<br /><br />Just let all the insecurities go and enjoy yourself. #YOLO. You Only Live Once.<br /><br /><br />3. Make Videos: For me, filming sex is downright sexy. That is a sure turn on for most people. Temi, a close friend of mine said “My partner and I tried filming sex because it had been a fetish of mine. It was weird but worth it. Seeing those videos made me horny all over!”<br /><br />What better way is there to create memories is there than filming these intimate moments? Just be careful though. Trust who you’re filming with enough to keep the videos for your eyes only.<br /><br /><br />4. Try out Your Fetishes: I know… fetishes can be both weird and absurd. This Is why it is necessary to sleep with someone you’re comfortable with. It would quell the weirdness.<br /><br />The fun part of exploring those fetishes is that you get to experience what you have been so curious about. Like they say, “curiosity is the mother of invention”. Who knows, you might become a guru at it and show us the way.<br /><br />So long it is not something to extreme that can cause physical and emotional harm, I don’t see why you shouldn’t go for it.<br /><br /><br />5. Sleep with Someone You’re Comfortable With: Damilola, my friend recalling the first time she had sex said, “It was my first time and I was nervous. But somehow, staring into the face of Sammie, my then boyfriend, eased my nerves. He made me feel beautiful, staring at my body like it was the most amazing thing he had ever seen. Although the first time hurt and stung like a bitch, I knew I was secure.”<br /><br />No one should sleep with someone they don’t feel safe around for any reason. Whether it is to look cool or to feel in vogue, don’t do it. Your ultimate satisfaction matters the most. If you don’t feel safe with them, don’t sleep with them.<br /><br /><br />6. Try Something New: Be unconventional and innovative. You can browse the internet for sex styles or places you can have sex.<br /><br />Predictability is boring. Take it from someone who knows. You don’t want to have sex and your partner knows what is coming. The same three styles from last three years.<br /><br />Don’t be shy. Enjoy, that’s the essence. Even though I would not admit it to him on normal days to not inflate his ego, I love the strange things my partner does. Sneak peak, he fucks me on the table.<br /><br /><br />7. Be expressive about what you want: There’s no need to be modest about something your likes and dislikes. I know you might be in the “my partner likes thing so I should bear it” school of thought. Sex is not to be endured. It is to be enjoyed. If your partner like that particular thing that makes you so uncomfortable, tell them. They wouldn’t know unless you tell them.<br /><br />Someone who went for couple’s therapy with her man stated that one problem in their relationship was sex. He was shocked. “I thought I do it right.” He rebuffed and she said “the rough doggies all but kills my pelvis.”<br />He was so shocked to know. All the while, this woman had been giving him fake moans and screams of “mhm…ah…harder” because she thought he liked it. She could have just spoken up then and saved everyone the stress.<br /><br /><br />8. Be Affectionate: for me, it would show whether you love someone or not by the way you sleep with them. If you’re in a romantic relationship and you care deeply about the person, let it show. Sex is a means of expression, you know?<br /><br />Those little kisses and affirmations like “I love you, you’re amazing, your body is beautiful” go a long way. This should not be limited to when you’re having sex though. No one wants to be seen as a sex toy.<br /><br /><br />9. Have Sex at an Unusual Place: Sex away from the confines of your bedroom walls is a wonderful idea. Try other places in the house like your bathroom; don’t slip and fall, the kitchen island, or better still in public.<br /><br />Like my partner does, you can treat yourselves to a nice hotel once in a while. When you’re there, you can have sex in the balcony, under the night sky. Public toilets are also a sure bet. This is very thrilling. The satisfaction the urgency that comes with the fear of getting caught compares to none other.<br />Enjoy your sex life. It’s very worth it.<!-- /wp:paragraph -->